The Internet has given birth to a hysteria surrounding adulthood. It’s essentially everywhere you look.
Bills, marriage, having children, obligation to act mature…
Yes. Those are all factors and parts of adulthood. And no, I’m not trying to downplay any of those and say that they are untrue.
Putting yourself through the motion of working 5-6 days a week, paying an absurd amount on food, bills, and stuff necessary for survival but just enough to leave your monthly pay with no extra savings. Being single AF and on the verge on giving up on love… Sounds tough.
And yet, despite all these, entering adulthood is going to be the best time of your life. Because here’s the thing about graduating from high school or University and entering the real world: Your life becomes your own. For better or for worse. Yes, you might have to work a crummy job. Yes, you might barely be able to make ends meet. Yes, you are going to have breakups and rejections and struggles that make you want to give up on love.
But at the end of the day, every struggle, every triumph, every fresh start belongs to you.
While some people will find that statement terrifying, others will find it absolutely liberating. And those are the people who will unquestionably love their adult years.
It is easy to be a teenager and have all your expenses covered for you. It’s easy to have health care and a roof over your head and delicious hot meals delivered to you three times a day if you had parents who cared enough to do that. Its easy when the only thing that you have to do is get good grades in school, and have lots of fun doing things that teenagers like to do.
And it’s a lot of fun to stumble through tertiary. It’s great meeting inspiring people and learn incredible things about yourself.
Even as you look back in life now and wished you could go back in time to those days, there’s also a very particular kind of contentment that I believe you cannot truly experience until you hit your adult years. It is the pride of looking around an apartment that you bought with your own blood, sweat and tears. It is the satisfaction of landing the first job that aligns with your passions and knowing that you made it happen for yourself.
It is the joy of finally falling in love with the right one, getting married, and building a whole life together.
It is the comfort of knowing that life is going to throw you lemons but you’re going to make lemonade out of them. Because you’ve fought your way into the kind of adult you want to become. And I’m not sure if there’s a single feeling out there that rivals that one.
So here’s the truth about all these – its not going to be easy. Not a single, glorious moment of it. You’re going to flail and struggle and fall and at times it’s going to hurt a lot. That’s adulthood.
But it’s also going to be phenomenal, and exciting, and liberating.
You’re also going to make life the way you want it to be and astound yourself with everything you’re capable of.